tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post2310955299928308358..comments2023-09-27T07:22:09.728-04:00Comments on Melissa's Meanderings: I Think, Therefore I Am!Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04600684740584460891noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-58291140783489364912010-10-04T22:27:51.309-04:002010-10-04T22:27:51.309-04:00Wow, I missed this when it was first published. H...Wow, I missed this when it was first published. How unfortunate!<br /><br />Hard to believe that you and I have come to a place of quintessential agreement. Not only do we agree, I got quoted in your blog. Yay! :-)<br /><br />I'm going to be honest here, I think the reason people disagree with you - and me - is purely out of defensiveness. Something about these assertions challenges their understanding of their own gender, or flies in the face of how they did things in their own lives, and thus they have to defend their positions and choices lest they be proved <i>wrong</i>. If there's some other reason, I'm yet to be convinced...and it'll take a lot to convince me that anyone can speak more knowingly about someone else's experience than that person can, or that the relentless pursuit of dis-inclusion and trampling upon of peoples' feelings is a good idea.<br /><br />Much love,<br />ReneeReneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15688972226193612658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-58674905215203213682010-10-03T03:20:59.367-04:002010-10-03T03:20:59.367-04:00@Lori
Thanks, sweetie! Check your email.
Meliss...@Lori<br /><br />Thanks, sweetie! Check your email. <br /><br />Melissa XXMelissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600684740584460891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-68351206563814947672010-10-03T03:11:45.684-04:002010-10-03T03:11:45.684-04:00@ Vronica
I would never ever bait you! I absolute...@ Vronica<br /><br />I would never ever bait you! I absolutely adore you! I know that you and I come from different perspectives, but unlike certain others, you have never been arrogant, or patronizing in your responses to my posts. Even when you disagree with me, you show a graciousness that is completely absent from certain antagonists. How can I not respect you? <br /><br />Thank you for following my blog and for always being being true to yourself!<br /><br />Melissa XXMelissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600684740584460891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-75670742209418705762010-10-03T00:25:54.030-04:002010-10-03T00:25:54.030-04:00Hi Melissa,
It sure is good to see you on fire! ...Hi Melissa, <br />It sure is good to see you on fire! LOL! Definitely made me glad I stopped by :)<br /><br />As for the subjectivity of being female or feminine, you're right that there is and perhaps will always be some sort of elitism by both cis and trans women over who qualifies to BE a woman. I've resolved to separate myself from those people who do not value my right to be who I am. Back in the days when I first began transition, I quickly saw the different cliques in trans circles and was deeply saddened that when I needed acceptance and unity, I couldn't get that...from those who were supposed to embrace and accept me! <br /><br />Bottom line is, there will always be those arseholes who think I or my friends look like "men in dresses," but in my book they've proven their insignificance to me with their intolerant attitudes. I've surrounded myself with friends who lift my spirits, give me hope, and encourage me with their words of kindness and love. It's worked for me! <br /><br />Keep bloggin' sister! <br />P.S. The word verification is "TRIESS." Is that just too strange or what? LOLLori Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01883850750657502492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-37718753994341717672010-10-02T12:47:30.831-04:002010-10-02T12:47:30.831-04:00lol, Ditto. I am not going to touch all that with ...lol, Ditto. I am not going to touch all that with a ten foot pole!<br /><br />Is there something in particular we owe this particular rant to? Did y'all have a bad meeting last night?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05117237397242817491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-15930918477952875102010-10-02T12:02:46.346-04:002010-10-02T12:02:46.346-04:00I'm not going to rise to the bait. :) This is ...I'm not going to rise to the bait. :) This is your blog, where you get to express your own feelings. I would never dispute how someone feels about themselves. We can only ever truly understand our own feelings.<br /><br />At the same time, I have my own opinions, which I give voice to just as you do -- as is both our right. I know I have my share of prejudices, but I do try to base my opinions on more than those -- or stay quiet.Véro Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02895169022031921712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-72460598597606022822010-10-02T11:01:17.655-04:002010-10-02T11:01:17.655-04:00Halle, the reason why it is important to dress and...Halle, the reason why it is important to dress and act the role is a question I always wrangle with. I mean, isn't it enough to take hormones that right the balance and have an acceptance of who we are on the inside? Why must I grow my hair out or wear clothing that matches my self conception? What does it really matter? Women wear jeans and a t-shirt, too. <br /><br />I think it comes down to the reality that it is not enough for us to have inner peace of that is not extended to some kind of outer affirmation of who we know ourselves to be. Melissa is correct. We are women because we say we are. We know and people who have not gone through what we are going through can never ever understand for even a moment what it is that we go through. It doesn't make any sense to them and we have no good words to explain the certainty we have about ourselves, so they may be sympathetic, but will still not have a true understanding of us. I think that is why we are drawn to each other. It is nice to find other people who really know what this is all about. <br /><br />So back to the dressing question... I know for me it is the rightness of wearing clothes that express my being. When I wear my male costume, it feels like a mask, like I'm hiding. When I wear my clothes, they feel like my clothes and I am just myself as myself.-https://www.blogger.com/profile/12678823555927806259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-56207000777634697572010-10-02T09:15:18.225-04:002010-10-02T09:15:18.225-04:00While the way we feel is beyond any debate, the wa...While the way we feel is beyond any debate, the way others react to us is essentially what makes the difference in how we can conduct ourselves in public. It is what makes us decide to stay 'in the closet' or not.<br /><br />Perhaps what we have here is revelation of some of that. To what extent are we not accepted because we threaten the established woman's 'club' and the established males' sense of self? <br /><br />I continue to wonder why it matters so much how I dress and conduct myself.Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.com