tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post8207740488241678502..comments2023-09-27T07:22:09.728-04:00Comments on Melissa's Meanderings: How Not To Deal With Your Kid's GIDMelissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04600684740584460891noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-6236590098376631202009-08-03T21:55:16.955-04:002009-08-03T21:55:16.955-04:00Melissa,
You and I have a LOT in common! I was a...Melissa,<br /><br />You and I have a LOT in common! I was an Air Force brat, and the first time I got caught I was 4 years old and my father tried to beat it out of me. <br /><br />Later, in 1971 I was "caught" several more times. Since I was only 11 or 12 there was little I could say or do to protect myself from their wrath. They threatened to send me to the family 'MD' which would have been a complete disaster. They always hated psychiatrists and thank God, because back then it would have been horrible -- just like what happened to you!<br /><br />It took many years to erase the shame and pain all that caused. Thank God for the Internet, so now people have access to instant information on the subject -- and hopefully as a result, very few kids have to go what we went through...<br /><br />Take care,<br /><br />BrittanyBLRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05505946715333873175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-54191150326675967062009-07-24T15:59:43.249-04:002009-07-24T15:59:43.249-04:00Wow - I kept wishing my father would follow throug...Wow - I kept wishing my father would follow through on his threat to send me to a psychiatrist, about my crying fits (that was also in 1966, when I was 11). People now tell me I would not have wanted to have come out to mental health providers about being TS back then, and I'm glad now I didn't. Instead I worked myself into panic disorder and depression that lasted another 35 years. <br />The opportunities, I think, are much better for TG teens today - but I know there is so far to go.Jill Davidsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02721594673135874457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-70642694667193085072009-07-24T14:24:47.086-04:002009-07-24T14:24:47.086-04:00When such horrific things are done in our lifetime...When such horrific things are done in our lifetimes, it makes me truly hurt for those who went through this even earlier...<br /><br />Somewhere through the years I've read a "zen" thing about "the things we despise most in others being what we fear most in ourselves". I wonder how much of that behavior was truly "ignorance" and how much was lashing out at their own insecurities?<br /><br />I had to scroll back down after reading this to see that lovely smile from now!<br /><br />alanalanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06013341654649926300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-22864515072478252009-07-24T13:23:17.549-04:002009-07-24T13:23:17.549-04:00Thats such a sad story Melissa. It i sad that pare...Thats such a sad story Melissa. It i sad that parents can be so cruel to their own flesh and blood. Being transgender is hard to understand, and I think sometimes people try to protect us by forcing us back into what they believe to be our true gender role. <br /><br />But good intentions are really no excuse for traumatizing a young person like that. <br /><br />I'm glad you eventually found someone to open up too. It feels affirming when someone actually understands and accepts who you are for the first time. It's good that you found the strength to go even after the demeaning psychologist interviews your parents sent you to.ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-25447465367238433802009-07-24T10:56:51.899-04:002009-07-24T10:56:51.899-04:00Melissa, I hope getting the words down has helped,...Melissa, I hope getting the words down has helped, I know it did for me. They really were the dark ages we lived through with every organisation you can mention. <br /><br />The information was out there for them they just did not want to believe it. Just how many of us had our lives put in limbo for decades I can hardly imagine. <br /><br />It is hard to put the past behind and live for now and the future but we have nothing to loose and everything to gain.<br /><br />I remember the tears shed writing out my history so know how bad this last week must have been. Was thinking of you having gone quiet. <br /><br />Caroline xxxCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-34254184641580998712009-07-24T03:42:02.287-04:002009-07-24T03:42:02.287-04:00I suddenly feel so blessed to have suffered quietl...I suddenly feel so blessed to have suffered quietly in my own head all those years. I don't think I could've endured those humiliations. You were made of stronger stuff than me! Glad you made it out the other end finally.Leslie Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15373261212549008939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-79908556882053896372009-07-24T03:14:08.789-04:002009-07-24T03:14:08.789-04:00Melissa.
I think the problem for some of us back ...Melissa.<br /><br />I think the problem for some of us back then was that our folks were in enclosed "communities", in your case tne Army, in my case the Roman Catholic Church. <br /><br />I don't know what was worse; my mother's threat of having me put in a home, or of her telling the school priests and having them beat it out of me.<br /><br />They were products of their time and their background. Doesn't excuse it, though.<br /><br />love<br />chrissie<br />xxxchrissieBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495222190059079697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-50927920862706362662009-07-24T03:07:45.954-04:002009-07-24T03:07:45.954-04:00Too many tears...
love
chrissie
xxxxToo many tears...<br /><br /><br />love<br />chrissie<br />xxxxchrissieBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495222190059079697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-38850082060637633902009-07-24T01:55:16.198-04:002009-07-24T01:55:16.198-04:00I think most of us 'mature' girls who eith...I think most of us 'mature' girls who either came out or were caught early in our life have horror stories to tell. My first experience with a psychiatrist(he touched me inappropiately) still has me not trusting any that I've ever seen. And of the ten or so I've seen, I still haven't been officially diagnosed as transgender. Just hearing that would afford me a great sigh of relief.<br />Oh, and I sat explaining myself to a group of Army psychiatrists in 1972 when I let them know I was a transsexual. (my words, not theirs) I was discharged in a few weeks.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02903540438864171068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-41534253126649652242009-07-24T01:26:43.462-04:002009-07-24T01:26:43.462-04:00Wow, I thought the dreaded childhood silence I fac...Wow, I thought the dreaded childhood silence I faced was bad enough. You had this experience that nearly drove you to your death, and unfortunately there are still "therapists" who would try to treat a child with an incongruent gender identity with the same methods. We really need progress. <br /><br />Excellent retelling of this story. I'm sorry you had to endure this.Lori Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01883850750657502492noreply@blogger.com