tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post8868972976494625506..comments2023-09-27T07:22:09.728-04:00Comments on Melissa's Meanderings: Will I ever be the girl I long to be?Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04600684740584460891noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-16848305075103766042013-01-19T17:33:20.539-05:002013-01-19T17:33:20.539-05:00rip cuz. rip cuz. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-58074367797397359222009-11-21T17:12:20.085-05:002009-11-21T17:12:20.085-05:00Dear Melissa,
I to will say that 61 is not too o...Dear Melissa,<br /> I to will say that 61 is not too old to transition. I transitioned at 58 and am now 63, I live in a medium size south ga town and am really out. Not a ripple in sight and am an activist when I can. I agree with Jenny J. take every chance you can to make personal contacts and enjoy the day.Kay & Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244257765709660605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-13384533801098153772009-11-20T16:48:22.817-05:002009-11-20T16:48:22.817-05:00if you want 'it' bad enough even now its n...if you want 'it' bad enough even now its not to late, motivation and need is the clue<br /><br />a friend of mine in the uk has just transitioned at about 68, she's now 71, had the op, nose job, boob job, adams apple next, lives in stealth mode in a new community, goes to church, apparently has a fab time..<br /><br />I know she would recommend it to anybody, i've not taken her advice 100% yet.. maybe only 4%.. lol<br /><br />xxx LLouise Gallacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04726019122996325608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-33417471303577163122009-11-19T18:16:26.944-05:002009-11-19T18:16:26.944-05:00Melissa,
Regarding the title of your blog...no, I...Melissa, <br />Regarding the title of your blog...no, I do think you will ever be the girl you wanted to be. Reality can be a bitch, wouldn't you agree. Having the mind of a woman can be painful in so many ways. We dream about our deepest desires and feelings, while our male side tells us those dreams will never become reality. Even SRS cannot make us the woman we dreamed of...that innocent young teen...that mother of a loving husband's children. I often feel great sadness over some of those things I have missed out on.<br /><br />On the other hand, I have to seek out the positive aspects of my life. Even though I have been forced to live it as a male, I have learned to love and appreciate every moment I get to present my female life and heart to the world. Therein lies the rub...we just have to make the best of a bad situation. Having a positive attitude can often be challenging, but it is so often the only answer. We all have to set the priorities in our lives...then we have to live with our choices. There are times in our lives when our priorities change...then our lives need to change to accommodate them. I've been asking myself those questions lately and so far I have been able to live with my circumstances. However, I leave my options open...I know you do the same. Good luck...don't worry, be happy. :)SuziAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-12191880764036393242009-11-19T10:47:53.206-05:002009-11-19T10:47:53.206-05:00What have you done to me, Melissa? I got up this ...What have you done to me, Melissa? I got up this morning, for my half hour of blog reading prior to work, and told myself this was "Melissa Day". Time to catch up on what M has been up to.<br /><br />I read this beautiful post and then I see the link to Jenny's blog and immediately go over there. Now, I've run out of time and now I've added another blog to my ever growing reading list.<br /><br />But, I will be back!!!<br /><br />As far as this post goes, it is always so interesting to see how many of our lives are so much the same. In many ways, my story is so similar to yours. The project management thing really resonated. For me, I have always been so good at designing and planning the project but so bad at actually relating to the workers at the job site. The times when I have felt most female are not when dressed or with other women, but when I have been on job sites. This may be hard for others to understand but I have a sense you can relate to what I am saying.<br /><br />Calie xxxCaliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-49822642626469361092009-11-18T23:44:34.065-05:002009-11-18T23:44:34.065-05:00Dear Melissa.. your words resinated with me deeply...Dear Melissa.. your words resinated with me deeply.. I knew at a very early age that I was in the wrong body.. my adoptive mother thought it was cute to see me dressed in her clothes.. sleeping in her slip.. I just could not be pals with them, men.. couldn't talk like they did.. didn't play sports .. I always disliked men for most of the same reasons you did.. you knew some that were, you said OK.. I rarelly have.. I find them bloated with testostrone.. sorry I think most of them are #$%&*&*.. I don't like or trust most straight men.. we just to not think alike.. <br /><br />I always loved women.. wanted to be with them.. wanted to be one of them.. the term lesbian in descise (sp) really does fit me.. I am married for the second time, so I guess I have the best of both worlds.. I am one of the few men that belong to the Butch Femme Social cIub.. I keep my sanity buy reading a lot of lesbian fiction.. I can live in the books that I read.. lesbian authors write the way I think.. I always used books to escape.. physical, emotional and sexual abuse.. all of your friends here have given wonderful advice, and care so much about you.. It's so easy to care about you... <br /><br />No matter what you ever say, you are just too beautiful to be 61.. you are a lovely woman.. and your words are so well spoken.. sorry Melissa, you are who you are no matter to what degree you wish to continue.. You are truly someone I wish I could know better in this life.. <br /><br /> Naukishtae OXOXONaukishtaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12297131304139916045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-62432036593490131592009-11-18T19:55:08.516-05:002009-11-18T19:55:08.516-05:00Melissa, thank you for the sad yet fascinating tal...Melissa, thank you for the sad yet fascinating tale<br />of you! Paragraphs two and three are a dead-on for my early life... as well, I suspect, for many of your readers.<br /><br />You are the expert on you, and what you need and desire. That said, 61 is not at all too late. I personally know many women who have transitioned at around your age, and older. If it's worth it to you, go for it! And hey, I think you look great! Many trans women need FFS in order to look like you do in your pictures. It's fine if you don't WANT to transition, or have GRS, what-have-you... but never say you CAN'T do it. You can do whatever you set your mind to. :)Amy K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01731056254476935306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-2346957494827666942009-11-18T18:07:51.149-05:002009-11-18T18:07:51.149-05:00Awe Melissa,
I adore reading your entries on here,...Awe Melissa,<br />I adore reading your entries on here, I could waffle on about many things but just don't have the time to put them down on here, reading this last entry of yours made me really emotional and tearful, its easy to forget how Ladies like you have struggled before the internet came about, everything you referred to rang true with myself, you know men and rules, trying to be macho and fit in, hiding our secret, forming relationships only to let our partners and ourselves down. I'd just like to say though that at 61 your not too old to make a new life and many friends as the true you, how far you want to go, well only you know, but you look fab, have a lovely personality that shines through on your blog, you can have many years enjoying your retirement as Melissa, I have no idea about your finances, but maybe you could find out where events are taking place and maybe drive over the day before and stay in a hotel and get ready the following day, you just seem so isolated sometimes, I know its a long trip to the groups, but if you could arrange to meet some friends its worth far more than a few hours on the net, have a mingle and get out there girl, you'll be so popular i just know it, don't look back with regret, look forward and live for now. I do hope I'm not being pushy, I just care thats all. xxJenny.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09194929874722680071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-52173588846532028142009-11-18T17:47:22.525-05:002009-11-18T17:47:22.525-05:00I have to say I love the group of friends I have o...I have to say I love the group of friends I have on blogger.<br />Everyone speaks so honestly of there thoughts, worries, experiances and dreams.<br />It seems like we are all connected and I would like to thank you Melissa for being so honest in your blogs.<br />I have to say I would have never guessed you were ever anywhere near 300 lbs from your photograph.<br />You look like a beautiful woman who is nowhere near 60!<br /><br />xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-49287664526355949692009-11-18T10:53:42.057-05:002009-11-18T10:53:42.057-05:00Hi Melissa. I'm seeing an awful lot of coincid...Hi Melissa. I'm seeing an awful lot of coincidences here between your life and mine so let me see if I can give you a nickel's worth of two cents. Not that it really has anything to do with the price of tea in China, but I spent a previous life as an electrician also. I was a marine electrician which would be very similar to an industrial electrician I suppose. My work environment moving around a lot more would be the big difference there. It was also a very male workplace, but I had the benefit of a lot of positional authority to back me up. <br /><br />I need to get you down my way for a weekend so you can visit the other TS support group I belong to. It's a MUCH different mix of girls compared to the one in Richmond and it would let you see some very different attitudes and experiences. In particular, a good friend of mine there is a non-hormone taking, non-op woman. I'm not suggesting that as a way to go for anyone, but it is good to know someone who is happily living their life that way. You could follow me down from Richmond after the Friday group and head back home Sunday.<br /><br />Will I ever be the girl I long to be? Well, if the girl I want to be is 20, wears a size zero and has long blonde hair then the answer unfortunately is no. And I do not have to like that fact, just accept it and move on with my life. But if the girl I want to be is in her mid-50's, she can deal with the skeletal structure she's grown into and she is looking forward to whatever is going on with the rest of her life, then yes, I can be her. Not only can, but I am actively moving forward in that direction. <br /><br />I have a lot of regrets in my life, many things I would do differently. But the past is static and already written in the book of life. The pen is now writing in the present and the plot for future is in a rough outline. And I am the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05117237397242817491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-48210362249066504682009-11-18T07:38:10.050-05:002009-11-18T07:38:10.050-05:00Never heard of that second option before, Melissa....Never heard of that second option before, Melissa. Sound sliie it saves a whole lot of hassle, too..<br /><br />But yes, I do know of some girls who have found a half-way house and been very happy without GRS, and there's no rulebook that says on is less trans if one takes that step.<br /><br />love<br />chrissie<br />xxxxxx<br />ps, longer email on its way, honey!chrissieBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495222190059079697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-59378168349459918222009-11-18T06:30:38.311-05:002009-11-18T06:30:38.311-05:00Hi Melissa
I feel like I have had a lovely chance ...Hi Melissa<br />I feel like I have had a lovely chance to get to know you that much better than before. I really feel for you and the stuggles you have had to live through over the years and I sense your loneliness now. (not just from reading this post)If you lived just over the tree line from me I would come over to your place and give you a big hug right now! Thank you for sharing what you have in this post. I hope that even though you spend alot of time in your house alone you can be free and find happiness as the person you have always wanted to be. Sending you lots of love.<br /><br />HelenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7791633210661845991.post-69840440169640031062009-11-18T04:05:17.030-05:002009-11-18T04:05:17.030-05:00That was quite beautiful, Melissa. It's not a...That was quite beautiful, Melissa. It's not a "lifestyle" for the faint of heart, is it? So glad you corrected your health so you'd get a chance to live the life you dreamed of.Leslie Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15373261212549008939noreply@blogger.com