Wednesday, September 16, 2009

A Kiss For My Sweet Darling Niece!



Wow! I am just overwhelmed by the love that has been shown to me, first by my sister, and now by my niece! When I came out to my sister a couple of days ago, I told her that it would be OK to share that information with her daughter, because she was a very sweet, kind hearted girl, and I thought she could handle it. My sister called her daughter last night, and in her words, "had a long talk with her". She also forwarded my emails to her, along with a couple of links to my blog, and some pictures that I sent to her.

Later last night, I got a lovely email from my niece. I hope she doesn't mind me posting it right here. I just want everyone to know what a sweet girl she is.

"For so many years I felt like I didn't really know you. I never understood why you seemed so stand offish around the family. After reading your blog and seeing your pictures, it all makes sense. You are beautiful. I've never seen your face so lit up and alive as it is in your pictures. Its no wonder I felt a disconnect around you. You weren't being yourself. I hope some day I can meet my beautiful aunt Melissa. I love you. R xoxoxo"

Isn't she just the sweetest?

Melissa XX

11 comments:

Suzi said...

Wow, she really does sound like a sweetie! I'm so happy you have been able to receive such positive acceptance from close loved ones. :)Suzi

Amy K. said...

You're on a roll! You must be riding some really nice postive vibes now. I'm so glad, hun. :)

Naukishtae said...

Melissa.. what a lovely letter.. your pleasure in this is heard in the words you write.. I am so happy for you..
take good care DearOne.. How blest can one be? a lot in your case.. XX Naukishtae

Jenny.J said...

Thats truly lovely, it just brings a warmth to ones heart, I had similar verbal comments from members of my family, about the connextion area, I hope you get to hug her soon, you must finally be feeling so wonderful.

Hugs Jenny xx

lisalisa said...

You have such a nice family!
I am sure it is a testament to you also.
x

Dana Andra said...
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Dana Andra said...

This is the kind of thing that makes me cry every time. I came out to my ex-wife without really planning to, when a program about gender reassignment surgery came on TV. Without any real prior discussion of the topic, she asked me, "Is this what you want to do?" And I simply said, "Yes," trying not to cry. She thinks I'm confused and that changing ones gender is simply bizarre. And I asked her, "Can't you see how happy these people are after they've transitioned?" GRS isn't a panacea, but the difference is so obvious to see. She didn't see it, and still doesn't. I don't think my sister can handle it as well as yours has, but my two nieces might. Time will tell, but how blessed you are to have such understanding and insightful family members.

Love always,
Dana
xo

Melissa said...

@ Dana

If I hadn't shown my sister and niece pictures of me as Melissa, I think it would have been harder for them to cope with it. It's so hard for people, when they are used to seeing you as completely male, to think of you as a female. I don't look anything like Melissa, without my hair and makeup. When I showed them my pictures, it helped them see me as a female, and as my niece said, it also let them see how happy my face looked, compared to the way it looks when I'm in male mode. For years, I was afraid to tell anyone. I just finally got to the point, where I was dying to let someone know the real me. Keeping secrets like this is very damaging to one's psyche. It makes you feel like a freak, causes you to feel paranoid, and can even lead to panic attacks. I've experienced all of that. I love my sister and niece dearly, and I knew they loved me too, so I knew that even if they didn't understand, they wouldn't judge or reject me. I hope you can come out to your nieces and if your sister see how much happier you are as Dana, maybe she will surprise you with her acceptance.

Melissa XX

chrissie said...

Aaahhh.. That is just lovely... :)

hugs
chrissie
xxxx

Melissa said...

@ Jenny

Yes indeed, Jenny! I am feeling wonderful! In fact, I can hardly hold back the tears, when I think about it! Tears of joy, of course!

Melissa XX

Dana Andra said...

I hope you're right, Melissa. I have a ways to go before my face looks very different than my male face.

Dana
xoxo